Eliza Going ’18
Assistant Arts Editor
Thirteen years ago, Molly Bond ’19 and Marie Calhoun ’19 attended the same preschool, played in each other’s backyards and had the same friends. They lost touch when they moved on to different schools. I witnessed the accidental reunion of these two friends recently and decided to talk to them about how it feels to reconnect with someone so important.
Eliza Going: How did you realize that you were childhood friends?
Molly Bond: I was like, “Eliza, where’s your faceboard?” And you were like, “Oh I don’t have one, but I like this one,” and you pointed at this faceboard, but it was [to Marie] your faceboard. And you just happened to be behind us.
Marie Calhoun: And did it say I’m from the Bay area?
MB: It said San Francisco on it because I was like ‘You’re from San Francisco? I’m from San Francisco!’
EG: So you didn’t remember each other as your childhood friends?
MB: No, not at all.
MC: Well, we just didn’t make the connection.
MB: Cause I was like “Wait, what’s your name again?” And then we realized who we were.
MC: [In a class I’m taking], we were asked to write about our preschool experiences, and I wrote, “I remember hanging out with Julia, and Molly, and Maggie.” So it’s like I remember you, but I didn’t make the connection.
They went on to describe how it felt to make the connection.
MB: So then, we started to freak out a little bit.
MC: Kinda crazy.
MB: It was really crazy. I almost cried. I started spitting cookie everywhere.
EG: So at that point, were you talking about the memories you had together?
MB: Well, as soon as we realized we went to the same preschool, the memories began to come really quickly.
MC: Cause it’d just been so long.
MB: I actually had a dream about you I’m just remembering. It was a preschool dream, but I still remember it — I think it’s the first dream that I remember. I was at Julia’s house and we were looking out the window waiting for you to show up, and then you showed up and started looking out the window with us. We didn’t realize it, and you just started looking out the window with us because you thought we were looking at something interesting. We were just looking for you, but you were already there. It was a hilarious dream.
EG: What’s the story behind the sour grass that you guys were talking about last Sunday?
MC: In the neighborhood where I lived, there was tons of sour grass, and we would eat it a lot. Eating weeds off the side of a San Francisco sidewalk is not the best idea … we did it, though.
MB: I remember one time we went to Marie’s house, and we went into the backyard, and she showed me this little hole in the fence that had access to her neighbor’s yard that had a lot of sour grass in it … And then we ate so much of it that my tongue … like, I couldn’t feel it anymore. So that’s one of my memories.
EG: And I think you mentioned you wrote about this in a poem?
MB: Yes, I wrote this poem like four years ago about my life. It starts in preschool, and there’s a line in it about the sour grass thing — there’s two lines about it. They are: “we slipped between the teeth of a fence/to eat the neighbor’s sourgrass”
EG [To Marie]: Do you remember this memory as vividly, do you think?
MC: Definitely not. Most of my memories from preschool are just images. And I remember people, but I don’t have a lot of stories.
MB: It was intense meeting Marie because I can talk to my parents about preschool, but they never remember things the way kids remember them, you know? Like kids remember things in pictures, and they remember weird things. Like the lady with the long nails who had a lot of cats and read to us.
MC: I think we called her Miss Kitty or something.
MB: At first when you said that, I didn’t know what you were talking about, but then I started to remember it, too.
EG [To Molly]: Is it especially intense meeting Marie now because you don’t have siblings?
MB: I think for me, as an only child … I’m not really in touch with any of my friends from before high school at all, so it’s just funny to meet someone who remembers me from when I was not sentient completely.
MC: I think that’s one of the weirdest things, is that we knew each other at a point when we were, like, I don’t know … Like we obviously have changed so much (Molly: Have we changed?), and it’s so weird to think that I remember that person, and then now, you’re here.